Family Law Deposition
Question Bank

This handy resource was built to help you feel more prepared and less overwhelmed during depositions, especially if you’re representing yourself or working closely with an attorney.

These carefully organized questions cover parenting time, custody, legal decision-making, financial support, property division, and overall child well-being—so you know what to expect, what to ask, and how to answer.

Use this bank to prepare for court, guide your discovery, or build a more solid case—step by step, one question at a time.

Parenting Time and Custody (Best Interests of the Child)
  1. Describe your typical daily routine with the children, including mornings and evenings.
  2. What is your current work schedule, and who supervises the children during your work hours?
  3. Who is primarily responsible for transporting the children to and from school, daycare, medical appointments, and activities?
  4. What extracurricular activities are the children involved in, and what is your opinion about their participation?
  5. Have you supported or opposed the children’s involvement in any activities? If so, why?
  6. What is your position regarding the children having cell phones, tablets, or other electronic devices?
  7. How do you monitor or supervise the children’s use of technology and social media?
  8. What parenting schedule do you believe best supports the children’s best interests, and why?
  9. Describe any past concerns about holiday or vacation schedules.
  10. Have you ever missed important events in the children’s lives? If so, why?
  11. Describe your availability on weekdays vs. weekends for parenting time.
  12. How do you communicate with the children when they are not in your care?
  13. Have there been any instances where exchanges were late or failed? Explain.
  14. How do you support the children’s relationships with extended family?
  15. Have you ever withheld parenting time from the other parent? If so, why?
  16. Do you believe the children have expressed preferences about custody?
  17. Describe any significant changes in the children’s routines since separation.
  18. Are there any concerns with the other parent’s home environment or supervision?
  19. Have there been any reports or concerns from school or caregivers?
  20. Do you have any proposed changes to the current parenting plan?
  1. How do you and the other parent communicate regarding major decisions for the children?
  2. What decisions have you made jointly regarding healthcare, education, or religion?
  3. Have there been disagreements about medical treatment, vaccines, therapy, or other health issues for the children?
  4. What are your views regarding the children receiving vaccinations?
  5. Are there any ongoing medical diagnoses, dental concerns (such as braces), or therapeutic needs for the children?
  6. How have decisions about religious upbringing been handled?
  7. What is the current educational status of the children? Are there concerns about their performance or special needs?
  8. Have you ever withheld information from the other parent regarding medical, religious, or educational matters?
  9. Do you believe joint decision-making is appropriate? Why or why not?
  10. Have you ever disagreed with the other parent about school enrollment or curriculum?
  11. Have you been involved in selecting doctors, therapists, or dentists for the children?
  12. How often do you attend school meetings or parent-teacher conferences?
  13. Do the children have any educational accommodations or IEPs?
  14. Have you ever unilaterally made a major decision about the children without informing the other parent?
  15. Do you attend or support the children’s religious or cultural events?
  16. Have you discussed your views about vaccines or medical care with the other parent?
  17. Do you share school documents, health updates, and schedules with the other parent?
  18. Have you refused or delayed medical or dental care for the children?
  19. What is your understanding of your legal rights regarding major decisions?
  20. Have you proposed a written parenting plan that includes joint decision-making?
  1. Identify all sources of your income, including employment income, self-employment, investments, bonuses, commissions, and any cash income.
  2. Are there individuals (such as family, roommates, or partners) contributing to your household expenses? If so, how?
  3. What financial support do you currently provide for the children’s needs, including health insurance, daycare, schooling, and extracurricular activities?
  4. What are your views on contributing to the children’s expenses for school supplies, clothing, sports, and other activities?
  5. Have you paid any additional child-related expenses outside of formal support payments? If so, what and how often?
  6. Have you accurately disclosed all income and expenses to the court or in your financial documents?
  7. Do you receive or pay child support pursuant to a court order?
  8. If not paying court-ordered support, do you voluntarily contribute? How much?
  9. Have you made in-kind contributions (e.g., clothing, supplies) outside formal support?
  10. How do you prioritize child-related expenses in your monthly budget?
  11. What’s your opinion on splitting costs for summer camps or after-school care?
  12. Do you believe both parents should contribute equally to extracurricular costs?
  13. Have you kept receipts or proof of child-related spending?
  14. Have you ever refused to pay for a specific child-related item or activity? Why?
  15. Do you provide housing, food, or other essentials beyond what support covers?
  16. Do you believe the current level of support is fair and appropriate?
  17. Have you received financial assistance from others to support the children?
  18. What impact would increased or decreased support have on your ability to provide?
  19. Have there been major changes to your income since the last support determination?
  20. Would you agree to share extraordinary expenses (medical, dental, travel, etc.)?
  1. What is your current gross monthly income, and what are your average monthly expenses?
  2. Describe the standard of living established during the marriage.
  3. What were your financial roles and contributions during the marriage (earner, homemaker, both)?
  4. Do you have the current ability to meet your reasonable needs independently?
  5. If not, what education, training, or work experience would you need to become self-sufficient?
  6. Have you made efforts to seek employment, pursue education, or obtain job training since separation?
  7. What assets or financial resources do you currently have available (such as retirement accounts or investment income)?
  8. What obligations (such as caring for young children, health limitations) affect your ability to work?
  9. Do you have a current medical condition or disability that affects your earning ability?
  10. If you are requesting spousal support, what amount and duration do you believe are appropriate and why?
  11. Are you receiving support from any third party that affects your financial need?
  12. Have you contributed to the education, training, or career advancement of your spouse during the marriage?
  13. Are there tax consequences that should be considered in the determination of spousal support?
  14. Have you remarried or begun cohabitating with another adult?
  15. Do you currently receive or expect to receive any inheritance, trust income, or gifts?
  16. Have you made lifestyle changes since separation to reduce your expenses?
  17. How long were you out of the workforce, if at all, during the marriage?
  18. Did you relocate for your spouse’s career or make sacrifices to support it?
  19. Have you consulted with a financial planner or career coach since the divorce began?
  20. Would you be willing to enter a time-limited spousal support agreement with review terms?
  1. Identify all real property, vehicles, financial accounts, and valuable assets acquired during the marriage.
  2. Identify any property you claim is separate and explain why.
  3. Have you transferred, sold, or disposed of any marital property since separation?
  4. List all marital debts, including credit cards, loans, and unpaid taxes.
  5. Have you used marital assets to pay personal debts, or separate funds to pay marital debts?
  6. Have either party hidden or failed to disclose any assets or debts?
  7. Do you have a current inventory of all marital and separate property?
  8. Were any large purchases made near the time of separation?
  9. Have you retained or sold personal items belonging to the other party?
  10. Are you aware of any hidden or undisclosed accounts?
  11. Have you refinanced any loans or changed account ownership since separation?
  12. What vehicles are in your possession, and how are they titled?
  13. Have you filed joint or separate tax returns during or after the marriage?
  14. Do you claim any reimbursement for contributions to the other party’s separate property?
  15. Are there disputes about the value of any assets, such as real estate or business interests?
  16. Have either party incurred debts post-separation that should or shouldn’t be shared?
  17. Are any family heirlooms or sentimental assets in dispute?
  18. Have you consulted with a financial expert, CPA, or appraiser for valuations?
  19. Would you agree to mediation or appraisal for dividing complex property?
  20. What proposal do you have for a fair and equitable division of assets and debts?
  1. Are there any ongoing physical, mental health, or developmental concerns for the children?
  2. Have the children been diagnosed with any conditions that require special care or support?
  3. Do you have concerns regarding the physical or mental health of the other parent?
  4. Do you have any health conditions that affect your ability to parent?
  5. Who resides in your home, and do you have any concerns about people who regularly interact with the children in your home or the other parent’s home?
  6. Have any third parties (family members, significant others) been involved in incidents concerning the children?
  7. What steps have you taken to ensure the children’s emotional and physical safety?
  8. Have any child protective services or police reports been filed involving the children?
  9. Have the children attended therapy or counseling? What was the outcome?
  10. Are you aware of any bullying, academic struggles, or peer issues affecting the children?
  11. Have you or the other parent had issues with substance use or addiction?
  12. Have any household members had criminal convictions or pending charges?
  13. Do you use corporal punishment or any specific form of discipline?
  14. Have the children expressed fear or discomfort about visiting either parent?
  15. Have you ever left the children unsupervised for extended periods?
  16. Are firearms or other weapons present in either home? If so, how are they stored?
  17. Do the children have regular sleep, meal, and hygiene routines in both homes?
  18. What support systems (family, childcare, friends) do you rely on for parenting?
  19. Do you and the other parent coordinate on medication schedules, appointments, or routines?
  20. What concerns, if any, do you have about the children’s future well-being and stability?

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